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Death of Interpersonal Communiction!

It’s 7:52am and I can guarantee you that at least 75% of the school aged kids with cell phones have texted, update their status or played a game on their phone or other mobile device already. The sad reality is that as parents we are buying them these devices that allow them to ignore their educational instruction, preoccupy their time with gossip and nonsense, and that promote the decline of interpersonal communications. Our children are learning that instant is the way to go. These adolescences are bashing each other via text message, or spill intimate and hurtful details about one and other via Facebook and MySpace updates. They are exposing their personal information and depicting inappropriate pictures and information about themselves to people they don’t know.

Even more disturbing is the number of inappropriate and compromising photos of girls, and in some cases young boys that are posted on these social networking platforms. Even sadder than that is the number of you parents who have no clue what your child is really up too. Is there really a need for the cell that you bought them to do anything more than place a call? Is there a reason that the MP3 player’s that you’re buying them have to do anything more than play music? I don’t think so. We are giving our children way too much free reign. We are widening the area of public exposure to predators and lessen out safety nets by giving the access to all this instant content and these social networks. We have rules in my house, we have boundaries and we have family time. When was the last time you had a dinner that was text message free, IPod free? Or even altogether as a family unit? Think about it, I’ll wait….Really people we are helping to incite the decline of the family unit and promoting harmful and distasteful social behaviors? Get to know your children, ask those questions, check text messages, check up on them, use parental controls to limit their internet access, and more importantly spend some time with them. Get them a real hobby, something like sports, music, drama, band, volunteering, or a summer job.

Stop giving them so much alone time, so much cyber-time, and stop promoting physical anti-social behavior. It is our job to protect our children and to teach our children and we can’t possibly be teaching them anything that is valuable or productive when they spend an average of 6-8 hours a day Facebooking, MySpacing and text messaging. Where is there room for anything else?



Yesterday (2/27/10) The Hawaiian Island’s was spared of what could have been a devastating situation. As some of you know my family and I are stationed here in Pearl Harbor and we live in the City of Kapolei, both of which are located on the island of Oahu. Well we awoke to the sound of the emergency siren blaring as loud anything I have ever heard. We were under Tsunami warning, not a watch but a warning. We were notified that we along with all the other islands that make of the state of Hawaii would be hit by a Tsunami that was a result of the devastating 8.8 earthquake that leveled Chile and would later go on to cause a quake in Argentina and some damage to the city of Ventura in California.

We were given an approximate time of impact with no indication of the size of the waves but the way it  was portrayed was as though we were in for something potentially shattering. I have never felt so helpless and scared in my life. All I could do was pray and prepare my family a natural disaster. It was in the waiting and praying that I realized how real that old expression, “tomorrow is promised to one,” really is. I went to bed and all was well, and I woke to find out that my life, my world, my family could all be taken in an instance. Or it could have been at least disrupted in a very significant way.  In waiting for our estimated time of impact and in between the praying and all the rest of the mental preparation I realized that I have not even scratched the surface of my life. I am 26 years old and I realized that part of my final preparation involved some apologies and I’ll do better Lord and even some regrets. That is awful, my last minutes should have been full of prayer, memorable moments and life fulfilling events. That let me know that I am not living the life God has for me. I am not accessing what this island or this life he has been given to me has to offer.

I never want my final minutes to be robbed of prayer and family reflection because I have unfinished business. So, I urge you to think about your life, think about the people that have wronged you, the person that you love but have never told, the absent parent in your life, that trip that you keep thinking about, that little voice that tells you to volunteer and  in doing so get up and get moving. Life really is too short and tomorrow is a huge gift from God himself. Every day that you wake up should be another chance to do better, do more and enjoy more than the day before. Even more so it is a chance to get right with God. You don’t want to be regretful of the relationship that you had with your creator, you don’t want to be in doubt, and believe me you don’t want to be trying to bargain with him in your final moments. So please, step up your relationship with our father, give more than you did yesterday to your relationship with him. Please people don’t wait to do things tomorrow; your tomorrow may not be there. So call your parent, sibling, ex-best friend, or whomever your holding that grudge against and forgive them so that you can forgive yourself and move on. Let go of angry baggage and mend broken fences. Stop putting of trips and volunteer events, affect your world today, and do it now.